Since yesterday's creation of Big Girl Fierce Love I've done a lot of thinking about how far to take my fierce self love.
I tend to be an extremely passionate person and when I find something that resonates within me, I throw myself in to it with reckless abandon. I'm feeling pretty darn passionate about this whole new way of thinking (and living) and I wonder if there is such a thing as too much fierceness.
I told a dear friend of mine to reign me back in if I take this thing too far. Her reply? "...you take it as far as you need to" and "F*#$...[its] your journey." This is the type of friend I need to keep around! That simple reminder that this is MY path was powerful.
Early today as I was getting ready to leave the house I did the quick mirror check, and immediately the self criticism, the self loathing, the self doubt crept in. I actually said OUT LOUD, "Enough!" I, literally, looked myself straight in the eye and said, "I am good enough today, now, right in this moment. This hair, this face, these clothes...they are what I have today and today is all I need."
I felt powerful for that moment, and then I noticed a zit forming on my nose and the mirage faded as I took a scrutinizing look at the width of my face, the thickness of my neck...etc etc etc. *Poof* Fierce love moment gone! (But, rejoice!, I held it for a moment.) How many more moments will I encounter? I hope for many more as MY path and journey unfold.
Until I can live in that snippet of the big girl fiercely loving herself for longer than just a tick on the hand of the clock, I will continue to treasure the fierceness bubbling within and the courage it takes to love myself.
I wish us all much fierceness in our love towards self.
BEAUTIFUL! First of all, I love your friend's response. What a keeper! And second, I so totally relate to your mirror experience. When I started my own journey of radical self-acceptance, I think I expected that eventually I wouldn't have mean thoughts about myself anymore. Well, I was wrong. Yes, they are much less frequent now, but I don't think they'll ever go away completely. The big difference is that now I don't attach to those negative thoughts. I watch them. I wave at them. I let them pass.
ReplyDeleteKeep rockin' the fierce, baby. Too fierce? No such thing!